Love and value

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Two questions are always present in the practice of clinical psychology more than others: love and money. No, it is not to create a novel mood. It is real, love (or the feeling of being loved) and money (with the freedom and success that it seems to represent) who most shake the office hours.

Often, this search for money and/or love masks two very important nuclear beliefs of worthlessness: lack of love and of devaluation. There, in this sense, the search for love and money, becomes a search for oneself.

Aaron Beck, creator of Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy, places nuclear beliefs as the preponderant factors in the functioning of the patient’s personality. That is, they are very important, if not the key to the behaviors and actions of the individual. Suffice it to say that if we are to have the Belief of Heartlessness and Devaluation as core, it should not bring good results.

In fact, by the way, beliefs work, not only by moderating the individual’s behavior towards the environment but also, serving as a filter of his perception of the same environment, that is, he places beliefs in the function of seeing the world. See the world through these beliefs … lack of love and lack of value…

This means that nuclear beliefs will serve as a kind of magnetic field, distorting the patient’s view of reality. In Beck’s words: “a not very accurate view of reality,” “a negative and idiosyncratic view of the world.”

This cognitive mechanics, always seeing the lack of love and lack of value, imposes on the individual two reactions: succumbing and depressing in the face of failure and loneliness or running behind to try to recover what is “missing.” Thus, they move the individual in an endless rush in search of something that often exists and is already present.

Remember, it is not that love and money are necessarily missing (they may even be), but rather, it is a Belief that these elements are not present as they should be. So the important thing is to evaluate the relationship between beliefs and reality and how they manifest.

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