This notion that everything has its drawer, therefore, clear, organizable, suitable, and adjustable limits, may be useful for material things, socks, shirts, cutlery. But when we think about the dynamics of life processes, there is no point where an end ends and a new beginning begins. Both are merged into a continuous and indissoluble amalgam.
We live according to the decisions or choices made. And choices and decisions will have consequences. Thus, the more knowledge, the more experience and, just as importantly, the more capacity to analyze the situation, the better the choices will be made.
The question and justification for this struggle are that the determination of the rules to social boundaries is arbitrary in relation to the individual. Being born without arms is not a personal choice. Worse, many of these arbitrarinesses are not even differentiating or harmful elements in themselves, they are pure prejudice and cowardice, being black, being poor, being fat, being a woman.
And here we come to psychology! A little history and philosophy, some biology and biochemistry, and we have the necessary basis for a psychological discussion.
Each life needs to be observed and evaluated individually. That is, the pain of each one must be understood as the pain of each one. Therefore, the sieve that measures one person is not meant to measure another. The small genetic and historical variations that each of us carries are large enough that each one needs to be understood within its own reality.
From this point of view, the evolutionary explanation of life seems to be much more attractive. It would include an explosive beginning to the universe, a cosmological accommodation of matter, and the organization of the atmosphere and liquids so that life here on the planet could happen.
Thus, teaching the body, the brain that there is a pressing need is a good tool for change. We do this constantly in fitness and sports training. We glimpse the suffering of defeat, we glimpse the joy of victory and pondering this equation we find the pressing need for change: more training.
A transformative approach comes with the phrase “you suffer too much, you need to change,” that is, “we accept you, but we worry that you suffer so much.” It can bring about the freedom needed for more effective experimentation of the environment, strengthening bonds with more functional beliefs and, most importantly, extinguishing reserves that can be maintained and will sustain a relapse.
Several religions, including Catholicism, Hinduism, and Umbanda, recognize in food and food a spiritual relationship and communion with life, with equals and with the divine.
Each one is each one. And therefore I cannot assume that the other understood as I would expect, much less demand that he do so. It is not possible to standardize the human from the midline.